I recently realised my circle of friends in Israel, who are my current acting family, is quite small.
I don’t mean circle of people I feel comfortable having a drink with or seeing out in public and having a little chat. Of those kind of people I have enough. I mean my friends friends. The people I invite over for meals and get invited in return. The people I shoot the shit with, chew the fat, banter n junk.
This isn’t something that really worries me - quality over quantity for me any day.
My worry with this group of friends is that I found myself latched onto them like a pack of angry kittens on a ball of florescent yarn, only a lot less bloodshed.
I worry that they might turn around and say, hey, we see that guy all the time, and he always uses cheap similes in his writing and often makes crude jokes about genetalia <see>. Also he’s vegetarian and smells as though he’s replaced the meat in his diet with garlic. (probably true)
To avoid the relationship getting stale I need to maintain my independence and keep my distance. So when they call me, I’m usually not expecting it, and they’re like:
“Hey man, you wanna go shoot some pool, or find a natural spring and swim in it”
Sometimes I just play it cool and say in a really lez a faire kinda way: “Nah man, would love to, but I got shit to do… ‘The Green Lantern’ movie has just loaded on my computer”
In hindsight, probably should have thought of something cooler, but everyone is so cleaver in hindsight.
Now I’m more of the opinion that I should just enjoy it while it lasts. So what if i see them 3 times a day, for coffee, brunch then beers. People love those things! And who knows they could be thinking the same thing - that they dont want to smother my will to live, n such.
If both parties are playing it cool and keeping their distance then things just cool down too much. I’m talking James Brown cool – HOUGHH!
And at the end of the day, they’re olim too, we need eachother.
